Know Thyself

Search others for their virtues, thyself for thy vices. -- Benjamin Franklin


Our greatest pretenses are built up not to hide the evil and the ugly in us, but our emptiness. The hardest thing to hide is something that is not there. -- Eric Hoffer


So long as you are praised think only that you are not yet on your own path but on that of another. -- Friedrich Wilhelm Nietzsche


I define comfort as self-acceptance. When we finally learn that self-care begins and ends with ourselves, we no longer demand sustenance and happiness from others.
-- Jennifer Louden


Look in the mirror. The face that pins you with its double gaze reveals a chastening secret. -- Diane Ackerman


Every time you don't follow your inner guidance,you feel a loss of energy, loss of power a sense of spiritual deadness. -- Shakti Gawain


The most important thing is to be whatever you are without shame. -- Rod Steiger


You may be disappointed if you fail, but you are doomed if you don't try.
-- Beverly Sills


Blessed are they who heal you of self-despisings. Of all services which can be done to man, I know of none more precious. -- William Hale White


The first principle is that you must not fool yourself -- and you are the easiest person to fool. -- Richard Feynman


You are in control of your life. Don't ever forget that. You are what you are because of
the conscious and subconscious choices you have made. -- Barbara Hall


Cherish your own emotions and never undervalue them. -- Robert Henri


Each person's only hope for improving his lot rests on recognizing the true nature of his or her basic personality, surrendering to it, and becoming who he or she really is.
-- Sheldon Kopp


What I am is good enough if I would only be it openly. -- Carl Rogers


No one can make you feel inferior without your consent. -- Eleanor Roosevelt


Let the world know you as you are, not as you think you should be. -- Fannie Brice


Men and women are not prisoners of fate, but only prisoners of their own minds.
-- Franklin D. Roosevelt


It is the habitual thought that frames itself into our life. It affects us even more than our intimate social relations do. Our confidential friends have not so much to do in shaping our lives as the thoughts which we harbor. -- J.W. Teal


Kwitchyerbellyakin. -- Irish saying


Take pride in how far you have come, have faith in how far you can go. -- Anonymous


We know what we are, but know not what we may become. -- William Shakespeare


You grow up the day you have your first real laugh - at yourself. -- Ethel Barrymore


If you are all wrapped up in yourself, you are overdressed. -- Kate Halverson


At some point your heart will tell itself what to do. -- Achaan Chah


Be honorable with yourself if you wish to associate with honorable people.
-- Welsh Proverb


Enlarge your consciousness. If your consciousness is small, you will experience smallness in every department of your life. -- Robert Pante


We don't see things as they are, we see them as we are. -- Anais Nin


The fool doth think he is wise, but the wise man knows himself to be a fool.
-- William Shakespeare


We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit. -- Aristotle


The shortest and surest way to live with honor in the world, is to be in reality what we would appear to be. -- Socrates


To thine own-self be true;
And it must follow, as the night the day.
Thou can'st not then be false to any man.
-- Hamlet. Act I. Sc. 3


Look well into thyself; there is a source of strength which will always spring up if thou wilt always look there. -- Marcus Aurelius


It may be all right to be content with what you have; never with what you are.
-- B.C. Forbes


Some say that my teaching is nonsense.
Others call it lofty but impractical.
But to those who have looked inside themselves,
this nonsense makes perfect sense.
And to those who put it into practice,
this loftiness has roots that go deep.

I have just three things to teach:
simplicity, patience, compassion.
These three are your greatest treasures.
Simple in actions and in thoughts,
you return to the source of being.
Patient with both friends and enemies,
you accord with the way things are.
Compassionate toward yourself,
you reconcile all beings in the world.

-- Tao Te Ching


He that respects himself is safe from others;
He wears a coat of mail that none can pierce.
-- Henry Wordsworth Longfellow


Seek out that particular mental attribute which makes you feel most deeply and vitally alive, along with which comes the inner voice which says, 'This is the real me,' and when you have found that attitude, follow it. -- William James


Man is what he believes. -- Anton Chekhov


Never think you're not good enough yourself. A man should never think that. People will take you very much at your own reckoning. -- Anthony Trollope


I thank God for my handicaps, for through them, I have found myself, my work and my God. -- Helen Keller


Everyone should carefully observe which way his heart draws him, and then choose that way with all his strength. -- Hasidic Saying


Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.
-- Carl Jung


The only tyrant I accept in this world is the still voice within. -- Mahatma Gandhi


When we see men of a contrary character, we should turn inwards and examine ourselves. -- Confucius


No bird soars too high, if he soars on his own wings. -- William Blake


The more things a man is ashamed of, the more respectable he is.
-- George Bernard Shaw


No one can give you better advice than yourself. -- Cicero


The most common sort of lie is the one uttered to one's self. -- Nietzsche


An old man sat outside the walls of a great city.

When travelers approached, they would ask the old man, "What kind of people live in this city?"

And the old man would answer, "What kind of people live in the place where you came from?"

If the travelers answered, "Only bad people live in the place where we came from," the old man would reply, "Continue on; you will find only bad people here."

But if the travelers answered, "Good people live in the place where we came from," then the old man would say, "Enter, for here, too, you will find only good people."

-- Yiddish folk tale


Knowing others is intelligence; knowing yourself is true wisdom.
Mastering others is strength; mastering yourself is true power. -- Tao Te Ching


If you have a skeleton in your closet, take it out and dance with it.
-- Carolyn MacKenzie


People often say that this or that person has not yet found him or herself. But the self is not something that one finds. It is something one creates. -- Thomas Szasz


There is only one corner of the universe you can be certain of improving, and that's your own self. -- Aldous Huxley


I am always ready to learn, although I do not always like being taught.
-- Winston Churchill


People travel to wonder at the height of mountains, at the huge waves of the sea, at the long courses of rivers, at the vast compass of the ocean, at the circular motion of the stars; and they pass by themselves without wondering. -- St. Augustine


No one can be caught in places he doesn't visit. ---Danish Proverb


People seem not to see that their opinion of the world is also a confession of character.
-- Ralph Waldo Emerson


He knew that insofar as one denies what is, one is possessed by what is not, the compulsions, the fantasies, the terrors that flock to fill the void. -- Ursula K. LeGuin, The Lathe of Heaven


I would rather be the man who bought the Brooklyn Bridge than the one who sold it.
-- Will Rogers


Don't compromise yourself. You're all you've got. -- Betty Ford


Do you see the world as it is, or do you see the world as you are? -- anonymous


Do you see a man who is wise in his own eyes? There is more hope for a fool than for him -- Bible, Proverbs 26:12


The temptation to moralize is strong; it is emotionally satisfying to have enemies rather than problems, to seek out culprits rather than the flaws in the system. God knows it is emotionally satisfying to be righteous with that righteousness that nourishes itself on the blood of sinners.

But God also knows that what is emotionally satisfying can be spiritually devastating.

-- William Sloane Coffin, The Courage to Love


Work like you don't need the money.
Love like you've never been hurt.
Dance like nobody's watching.
--Anonymous


The graveyards are full of indispensable men. -- Charles De Gaulle


Love not what you are, but what you may become. -- Cervantes 


Do not attempt to do a thing unless you are sure of yourself; but do not relinquish it simply because someone else is not sure of you. -- Stewart E. White


The way life treats you is a merciless mirror image of your attitude toward life.
-- Anonymous.

They all laughed. I drew their pictures and they asked for copies and I handed them out as if they were my tickets to the show. In the Navy Yard, I could drink with men because I worked with men; in the Parkview, I could drink with men because I drew their pictures. The world was a grand confusion. Finally, when I was bleary, when my hand wouldn't do what I wanted it to do, I went home. I would lie alone in the dark, feeling that I was a character in a story that had lost its plot. -- Pete Hamill, A Drinking Life


They are as stubble before the wind, and as chaff that the storm carrieth away.
-- Job 21:18


Maturity begins to grow when you can sense your conern for others outweighing your concern for yourself. -- John MacNaughton


If you want to test your memory try to remember what you were worrying about a year ago today. -- E. Joseph Cossman


A man's greatest strength develops at the point where he overcomes his greatest weakness. -- Elmer G. Letterman


Be not merely good; be good for something. -- Henry David Thoreau


We can never be certain of our courage till we have faced danger.
~ Duc Francois de La Rouchefoucauld


Freedom from desire leads to inner peace. -- Lao-Tzu


As long as you think you're green, you'll grow. As soon as you think you're ripe, you'll rot. -- Scott Horton (courtesy of Nicole Smith.)


Once to every man and nation comes the moment to decide. -- James Russell Lowell


The largest room in the world is the room for improvement. -- Anonymous


More people would learn from their mistakes if they weren't so busy denying them.
-- Anonymous


Signs of Emotional Security

1. Ability to deal constructively with reality.
2. Capacity to adapt to change.
3. Few symptoms of tension and anxiety.
4. Ability to find more satisfaction in giving than receiving.
5. Capacity to consistently relate to others with mutual satisfaction and helpfulness.
6. Ability to direct hostile energy into constructive outlets.
7. Capacity to love.
-- Dr. William Menninger


HOW TO BE PERFECTLY MISERABLE.

1. Think about yourself.
2. Talk about yourself.
3. Use "I" as often as possible.
4. Mirror yourself continually in the opinion of others.
5. Listen greedily to what people say about you.
6. Expect to be appreciated.
7. Be suspicious.
8. Be jealous and envious.
9. Be sensitive to slights.
10. Never forgive a criticism
11. Trust no one but yourself.
12. Insist on consideration and respect.
13. Demand agreement with your own views on everything.
14. Sulk if people are not grateful to you for favors shown them.
15. Never forget a service you may have rendered.
16. Be on the lookout for a good time for yourself.
17. Shirk your duties if you can.
18. Do as little as possible for others.
19. Love yourself supremely.
20. Be selfish.

This recipe is guaranteed to be infallible.

-- Gospel Herald.


And a hymn for Easter, a celebration of mankind's redemption from selfishness.

Eternal Mind the Potter is,
And thought the' eternal clay;
The hand the fashions is divine,
His works pass not away.
Man is the noblest work of God,
His beauty, power and grace,
Immortal; perfect as his Mind
Reflected face to face.

God could not make imperfect man
His model infinite;
Unhallowed thought He could not plan,
Love's work and Love must fit.
Life, Truth and Love the pattern make,
He is the perfect heir;
The clouds of sense roll back, and show
The form divinely fair.

God's will is done; His kingdom come;
The Potter's work is plain.
The longing to good and true
Has brought the light again.
And man does stand as God's own child,
The image of His love.
Let gladness ring from every tongue,
And heaven and earth approve.
-- Mary Alice Dayton


Every great mistake has a halfway moment, a split second when it can be recalled and, perhaps, remedied. -- Pearl Buck


There is no satisfaction that can compare with looking back across the years and finding you've grown in self-control, judgment, generosity, and unselfishness.
-- Ella Wheeler Wilcox


I prefer tongue-tied knowledge to ignorant loquacity. -- Cicero, De Oratore


The goal in life is to die young -- as late as possible.
-- Ashley Montagu, Anthropologist


Research is what I'm doing when I don't know what I'm doing. -- Werner von Braun


You will find poetry nowhere unless you bring some with you. -- Joseph Joubert


When you are looking in the mirror, you are looking at the problem. But, remember, you are also looking at the solution. -- Anonymous


God holds each of us by a string. When we sin, we cut the string. But God ties it up again, making a knot. Each time our wrongdoing cuts the string, God ties another knot drawing us up closer to Him. -- Meister Eckhart


Think. Believe. Dream. Dare.
-- Walt Disney's "Four Most Important Words."


Still I am learning. -- Michelangelo, on his death bed


I am obliged to exercise unlimited forgiveness because, if I did not forgive, I should thus act as if I were not guilty in the same way as the other has been guilty with regard to me.

I must forgive the lies directed against myself, because my own life has been so many times blotted by lies.

I must forgive the lovelessness, the hatred, the slander, the fraud, the arrogance which I encounter, since I myself have so often lacked love, hated, slandered, defrauded, and been arrogant.

I must forgive without noise or fuss.
-- Albert Schweitzer


He that is good for making excuses is seldom good for anything else.
-- Benjamin Franklin


Love work.
Turn a deaf ear to slander.
Be considerate in correcting others.
Do not be taken up by trifles.
Do not resent plain speaking.
Meet offenders half-way.
Be thorough in thought.
Have an open mind.
Do your duty without grumbling.
-- Cicero


The accusations really say more about the condition of the accusers than that of the accused. -- Roderick MacLeish


Take time to laugh.
It is the music of the soul.

Take time to think.
It is the source of power.

Take time to play.
It is the source of perpetual youth.

Take time to read.
It is the fountain of wisdom.

Take time to pray.
It is the greatest power on Earth.

Take time to love and be loved.
It is a God-given privilege.

Take time to be friendly.
It is the road to happiness.

Take time to give.
It is too short a day to be selfish.

Take time to work.
It is the price of success.

-- Anonymous


Those who can't laugh at themselves leave the job to others. -- Anonymous


No conflict is so severe as his who labors to subdue himself. -- Thomas A. Kempis


It is what it is. -- Tony Sasso, Marblehead Town Adminstrator


You grieve you learn
You choke you learn
You laugh you learn
You choose you learn
You pray you learn
You ask you learn
You live you learn
-- Alanis Morissette, from her album "Jagged Little Pill"


The remarkable thing is that we really do love our neighbors as ourselves; we do unto others as we do unto ourselves. We hate others when we hate oursleves. We are tolerant toward others when we tolerate ourselves. We forgive others when we forgive ourselves. It is not love of self but hatred of self which is at the root of the troubles that afflict our world. -- Eric Hoffer: U.S. Writer


Most of the shadows of life are caused by standing in our own sunshine.
-- Ralph Waldo Emerson


If you live only for yourself you always in immediate danger of being bored to death with the repetition of your own views and interests. -- Walter Beran Wolfe


He who believes in nobody knows that he himself is not to be trusted.
-- Berthold Auerbach


The mind may wander, but let not the senses wander with it. If the senses wander where the mind takes them, one is done for. -- Mohandas Karamchand (Mahatma) Gandhi


Note: I borrowed this collection so that it might have a more permanent home, close to my heart. It was originally hosted here.